Kundalini Splendor

Energetic Boundaries

by Cyndi Dale

Energetic Boundaries

Though imperceptible to the naked eye, our energetic boundaries mean the difference between experiencing an enjoyable, prosperous, and loving life or suffering through a sad, limited, and unhappy existence. They separate what we need from what we don’t, selectively letting into our lives only those energies, people, guidance, thoughts, situations, opportunities, and healing that bring our spiritual essence further into our real lives. They also go a step further and purposefully seek out and draw in everything we need to achieve our hopes and dreams.

Our energetic boundaries border our spiritual selves and promote our true nature, which is one of the reasons I often call them “spiritual borders.” We long to express this inner identity, and establishing the correct energetic boundaries will help us do just that. When created and managed correctly, they make sure that our real selves—not the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs that aren’t us—are in charge of our lives. And they share information with the world, telling everyone exactly who we are, what we want, and how they can treat us.

Maybe you didn’t even know you needed to craft invisible parameters to keep yourself safe and intact. As you read this book, you’ll discover that not only must you have these boundaries, but also that having them improves your life dramatically. You’ll come to rely on your new “force field” to the point that you won’t leave home—or come home—without turning it on.

Those of us lacking these boundaries or operating with damaged boundaries often fall prey to marauders: people who, wittingly or not, take advantage of us; situations that fell us over and over; and depressing behavior patterns that leave us feeling much less happy, loved, supported, fulfilled, respected, and provided for than we deserve. Quite simply, without boundaries, we can’t share who we are with the world. We won’t receive the bounty the world has to provide, either.

The symptoms of energetic-boundary issues range from the irritating to the traumatic. They can include:

• Feeling overwhelmed by everyone else’s feelings, moods, needs, problems, negativity, and even illnesses

• Habitual people pleasing, usually to your own detriment

• Sudden, awful attacks of negativity

• Exhaustion, anger, and frustration from carrying, and caring about, everyone else while receiving nothing in return

• Recurring monetary, relationship, and work woes

• Depressing heaviness and physical illnesses, results of absorbing external energies

• Fear and distraction caused by intrusive psychic or supernatural events or energies

• Generalized anxiety, the product of always needing to watch for unseen dangers

• Constant compulsions, which are often signs of tending others’ energies and needs instead of our own

• The embarrassment of behaving in ways that don’t reflect your real self and that allow you to put up with the ridiculous from others

• The nagging feeling that the universe or the Divine is present for anyone but you

At least two-thirds of the individuals I’ve seen in my intuitive-counseling practice have lacked energetic boundaries or had damaged boundaries. But by erecting and/or healing these borders, they have grown leaps and bounds.

(picture found on SoundsTrue website)